My life has been a series of wake-up calls—to something more, to something better. I want it for myself and I want it for the world. Yet the endless pursuit of never enough is a rat race in its own way. The seemingly-virtuous path of constant self-improvement can leave you right back where you started—empty and attached.
I have tried to approach each wake-up call with curiosity. I want to understand. I want to learn. In many ways, I’m a life-long student.
I went to school to be a filmmaker. I left college before I could graduate because the band I led got offered a US tour. We did that for over a decade. Then I helped found a graphic design company. I helped many small businesses with their marketing needs. I made a little more music and went back on the road telling stories and leading conversations about spirituality and growth.
Then I went back to school to learn how to make wine. I brewed beer and made wine at home. I had a couple kids and bought a house. I launched one of Portland’s first urban wineries and won the honor of Bar of the Year. I launched a canned wine product that broke all of the rules and was rewarded for doing so.
I went back to school again to become a life coach. I studied the mindset and routines of the most successful entrepreneurs. I wanted to take all that I have learned and find a way to share it with those who need it so much—the entrepreneurs who have invested their lives and are afraid they may lose their shirts. I help them tune their minds, their routines and their perspectives. I help them untangle their not-yet-seen knots.
We are storytelling creatures. When an event happens in life, we ask ourselves how it fits into our story, our life-thread. That helps us determine whether the event is good or bad. The judgement of the event is always situated in a particular framework about what is success and what is failure. Strings cross and the knot begins.
In order to get a fresh perspective, we have to find out what story we are in—what is success and what is failure. We have to see the forest, not just the trees. And then we get to choose whether we will keep that story, discard it or modify it to take us into the future.
Each story has a driving motivator, a Why? that must to be answered. We frame our Why? early on in childhood. We see what matters to our parents or in society. We learn what we can do to get external validation. We figure out who is safe and who is not. We begin to write the story that will lead us through our life.
Until the story stops working. The knot is too tight and we feel stuck.
My life has been a series of wake-up calls where I realize that the story that got me Here may not be the best story to take me There. And that’s when it gets interesting.
What’s your Why? that drives you to be the person that you are? To take the risks you take? To lead the way you do? When you’re ready, let’s work together to get at the bottom of this so that you can be freed up to live a successful life on your terms—to do something your own way!